Hitting Close to Home

Over 30 years ago, my best friend was in a domestic violence situation.  I didn't know of her situation because she hid it very well from me. I always had a feeling something was wrong because of the bits and pieces she would share in a passing conversation but I was never really able to put my finger on it.  

One day, her situation had gotten really bad. She finally came to  me. She and her son were beaten up by her husband and she needed my help.  

Of course!!  Without a doubt or any hesitation, I was going to help my best friend.........or so I thought.  The man of the house did not want to get involved. He wanted nothing to do with that situation and he felt we should stay out of  it.  It was their business and not for us to  get involved.

She didn't want her  family to know what was going on behind the closed doors of her home. She was too ashamed of the situation.

I was torn; keep peace in my house or help my  best friend.....  I needed to keep peace in my house, so I sent my friend, my best friend , on her way....  I felt free from a situation that I really knew nothing about but I knew  at the moment she left, I had lost my friendship forever.

Days later, I tried to reach my best friend;............. I do not know where she is or what happened to her. I've never to heard from her again.

That situation still bothers me to this day because I was not there for her.  No one should ever have to make that decision.  It stays with you forever. Since I was not there for her, I wanted to make certain others in need  will have a place to go. Being there to answer that call for help is also vital.  It is the most important thing as a friend or a loved one can do. It can be a dangerous and difficult step to take but my intent is to never miss answering the call for help again. Ever.......

"The Aspiration House" will be a transitional home for families  of domestic violence. The goal is to break ground in 2017.   

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Domestic violence is very serious, families are torn apart because of it. If you suspect something is going on, usually there is. Know the signs!!!

To my best friend, I love you and I miss you!!

–Pam

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